Discover the 30 most important marital conflicts. Research has shown eighty-three reasons why they happen
A recent study examines the most common reasons why couples do not agree that, it is surprising, although the reasons for conflict are well known to couples, friends, families, colleagues and, of course, psychologists and family therapists, they are not properly addressed.
Furthermore, psychologists have not thoroughly investigated what couples disagree on, or developed a unified method to identify conflicts, but it is important to have a way to identify the most complex conflicts and how conflicts affect marital relations, according to the author. . Grant Hillary Brenner in an article published in American Psychology Today. But when separation is not an option to avoid problems between spouses, what is the best way to resolve the conflict to achieve satisfaction between them?
Relationships can be changed
According to a recent poll conducted by the Pew Research Center in the United States, it was found that marriage is no longer available and the divorce rate is still on the rise, while the birth rate is falling. Always know.
People are more and more hesitant about their decision to get married, the survey respondents often state their desire to get married, and the reasons for not getting married are financial or professional insecurity and lack of desire to do, or reluctance to choose. the right person. Understanding the nature of conflict in detail is very important because of the high rate of divorce and infidelity, the potential for relationship dissatisfaction, the increasing rate of abuse and domestic violence , and negative aspects of children and society.
Because of how people decide to get married, getting a full understanding of the factors that cause conflict and talking about them before making the decision will bring the marriage back to its original state. - unimaginable. And if you can't handle the stress of checking each other's character before you get married, besides the conflicts that arise during the wedding planning, rush into an unprepared engagement. very well.
Lack of enough love and affection is the cause of conflict between husband and wife (Getty Images)
Lack of enough love and affection is the cause of conflict between husband and wife (Getty Images)
The nature of marital conflict
To clarify the nature of marital conflict, researcher Lopez and his colleagues developed a study that included three measures. For the first time, the researchers recruited a large number of participants to examine all the factors that can cause conflict between couples. husband and wife, because the initial data showed 83 different causes of conflict between husband and wife. Using different statistical methods, the researchers divided this list into small groups that included the most sensitive factors, and there were 30 factors to cover all the factors that cause conflict under the criteria of Differences in love relationships: 
There is no love and enough love.
No communication. Neither group cares enough about others.
Not getting the required status. influence.
Jealousy. Tell your ex-husband or ex-wife.
Ownership and management. old connection.
Spend more time with your friends. Housekeeping.
housework. A larger commercial carrier.
Brother
marital relationship.
Providing confidential information about other relationships. In-laws and blood.
Who is the head of the family?
Who is in control?
Who has the right to control things?
Clothes. Religion.
goals in life. Future plans.
children. Who will pay?
One side exploits all the other's money.
Family responsibilities and work responsibilities are among the biggest conflicts between couples (Getty Images)
Family responsibilities and work responsibilities are among the biggest conflicts between couples (Getty Images)
different in six groups
These 30 differences are further divided into six main groups:
Not enough attention or love. Jealousy and infidelity.
housework and responsibilities. sex.
Control and manage things. Plans and future income.
Conflict in romantic relationships
The researchers tested newlyweds and explained the differences in romantic relationships during the first marriage and a few years after marriage. Initially, the researchers recruited 214 people during the first year of their marriage. Most of the women are between the ages of 18 and 36, and the men are 41 years old. They use the principles of diversity in love relationships, say things that show the human condition, and perfect relationships. and satisfaction measures.
In the case of the second level - and since 138 people from the first group responded to the survey - the results were completed after three years. Statistical analysis showed that the characteristics of differences in romantic relationships proved to be effective in predicting the number of conflicts in marriage, and the problems that couples identify as changing over time. as different types of conflict exist between the two.
Control and control are part of marital conflict 
the future is different
Although it is necessary to conduct research on this to analyze the characteristics of the differences in romantic relationships and the different types of couples and the time and period of the relationship, this characteristic is a clear and clarity that couples, therapists and researchers can use. get a better understanding of this important issue. Knowing how successful couples go through each of the six areas mentioned above, as well as the specific causes of any conflicts that may arise, can help couples strive to have a relationship that will satisfy each other in a deep way.